By investigating your parter, there are 100 ways to get revenge before the damage is already done.
Ladies, remember the days when you were told to run a credit check on your partner before moving in, or getting married? Well, that still might apply in 2010, but it’s more important now to run a background check.
Just pick up any newspaper, or visit any news site on the Internet, and you will notice that there is a rise in domestic violence. Many times the men that women choose already have criminal records, and sometimes, those records include battery and abuse.
Now, with the added ease to find a partner through online dating sites, and places like Craigslist, predators are finding it easier to catch an unsuspected prey.
Here are 6 signs that might make you decide to run a background check on your partner.
Mysterious Family and Friends
Your partner seldom mentions his family, and you have never met them. If you’ve been with your partner for a while, it’s normal that they want you to meet their family and friends. If your partner is vague when asked, run a check on them.
Missing in Action
Longer hours at the office, unable to reach when you try to call, and always needing to step out and go somewhere for a few hours, but not really saying where, might all be signs of cheating. It could be something very innocent, but it should be enough to make you suspicious.
Straight Up Liar
There’s really no such thing as a white lie. A lie is a lie, and if your partner needs to lie about where they went, or who they were talking to, just chalk it up as another reason to dig deeper.
In this day and age, there is nothing suspicious about having a cell phone number, but not having a home phone. Cell phone plans are very cheap, and people just don’t feel the need to have the extra charges of a home phone.
But if your partner tries to be elusive about where they work, or where they live, this should tell you that they might have a wife, or girlfriend stashed away. Consider this a green light to start investigating.
Change of Normal Lifestyle
Is your partner becoming obsessive with their grooming, using extra cologne, and spending longer hours at the gym? If your partner was this way when you met him, this might not seem odd. However, if it’s the complete opposite of the man you met, and it is combined with any of the other signs above, you had better start investigating.
Once you suspect something isn’t on the up and up, start snooping around. Here are some suggestions:
1. Search the Home and Car
If you are living together, start going through pants and shirt pockets, backpacks and briefcases. Make sure that you leave everything exactly like you found it. Look for restaurant receipts. This might show how many meals were ordered. They might have telephone numbers written down, but no name associated with them on pieces of paper, or in notebooks and agendas.
Remember that a desktop computer, laptop, cell phone and Blackberry can hold a lot of information. If you have the time, do a thorough search of these items.
Here is some valuable information that you should have if you want to run an online background check. Remember, the more info you have, the better results that will come back.
Social Security Number
Date of Birth
Current and Previous Addresses
Place of Birth
Current Place of Employment
Previous Places of Employment
Marital Status (Married, Divorced, Separated) Where They Attended School
Graduate – If they say they have a degree, check to see if they really did.
You will find many useful searches packed into this toolbar. However, there might be times when you can’t find the exact information you want, and need to use a paid search. One of the best in the business for private citizens is Inteligator. You can run just about any type of background search, and get immediate results.
They have over 1 billion records in their database, so if your partner has some dirt to dig up, Inteligator is the place to start digging.
Don’t feel guilty about being suspicious. It’s often been said that a woman’s intuition is usually correct. So, if you suspect something, start investigating today.